Wildest Nightmare, or Wildest Dream

I’m trying to get out of the habit of keeping myself in the ‘wait’ – sitting in the inaction and contemplating my next move. 

Sometimes we know the next move so deeply, and we don’t want to do it because it keeps us from taking the next leap that we know is the right one toward our future. Naturally, something about that doesn’t make sense – why would we withdraw ourselves from taking our next move when we know it’s the one that can drive us to our desired results? 

It’s because success, quite frankly, can be scary. Being right can be scary. Being on the other side of a path we always wished for takes us out of the reality we are currently in. The current reality where we still have our sights set on that far-out destination. When we “cross the finish line”, we remove that ambition, drive, momentum of what was keeping us motivated to get there in the first place.  

We get so comfortable in the want that we don’t know what life would be like once it’s in our hands. 

Even if the other side has money, love, purpose, fulfillment, warmth, abundance… it is the unknown. No matter how logically we can convince ourselves that the next steps are the ones that can sink us deeply in our wildest dreams, those final steps are where we brace ourselves the most. 

The unknown is indeed a wild place. And we get to choose if it’s our wildest nightmares or our wildest dreams. We get to “choose” – in the sense that we get to choose our belief system. Do you believe the unknown is filled with potential nightmares or do you believe the unknown is filled with potential dreams?  

You get to decide, and I’m curious as you were reading that question… which one do you lean toward? 

Ultimately, fears can cloud your judgement of the unknown. They will wholeheartedly exist throughout the entirety of the process – until the very end when you’re about to reach for that final step – yet it’s your choice if you are going to choose to react to its force by tapping out, or not. To move forward, or not. 

The reality is: We all know what happens when you don’t tap out. When you end up choosing the desire over the fear. Especially those who have built up the resilience and the strength to identify this pattern time and time and time again. Those who have been able to see in their own world that continuing to choose the belief system that gets them over the finish line once and for all, is what truly brings them to the ultimate sigh of relief. Where they win out the wait. 

Those specific fears of the past only truly break through and open to release when you choose forward, not back. If you tap out too soon, that fear just gets stored back into the body to be built up again and again over time. Until you build up more resilience and strength to try again the next time. Which – don’t get me wrong – is an extremely important part of the process as well.  

Nevertheless, it’s when you’re able to sit in the ‘wait’ long enough to acknowledge the fears, contemplate which direction to go next (maybe one too many times) that you then can notice that you are ready to receive all that you’ve worked so hard for. That you can allow the door to open to all that you’ve accomplished.  

And that the unknown might just bring about that wild dream you chose to believe deeply in in the first place. Or maybe not? It’s ultimately your choice to believe it, or not.